Now I am Found…

Now I am Found... by Fedora

Now I am found. Found in what. What has found me. I have found patience, faith, and determination in love. This is not my first time loving a man. But it is my first time deciding to stand and make this love work in our lives. Myles Munroe said that “love is not the foundation of marriage, you need knowledge and understanding.” The love comes easy. Often quickly but love alone cannot sustain the relationship.

This time I allowing to slow me down in the building of this love and commitment. I have learned that there are many forces opposed to love. Things or people destined to destroy the love relationship are in abundance. But finding support in successfully standing in your love relationship are scarce.

Recently I have seen several love relationships meltdown right in front of me. They shared common denominators, anger, pain, confusion, and ignorance. Yes, ignorance. People do not know how to understand each other enough to really love and support the person not their feelings.

Patience, willing spirit, and listening will tell you all you need to know. Even what’s wrong. Sometimes we turn a deaf ear to what’s wrong. This keeps us waiting longer because we cannot build with another when we are not whole ourselves. I know this because I lived this.

I told you that last time. I am confidently lost. I know who I am and I am confidently stumbling through my new path with a smile on my face and love in my heart. I am a whole woman who loves a broken man. He desires wholeness and is currently seeking it but it requires patience and understanding on my part.

Obtaining wholeness takes sacrifice, time, and perseverance. To become whole you first must sacrifice what you believe to be true and face your real truth. Acknowledge your shortcomings, face those painful moments, and who you have allowed yourself to become as a result of the pain. Then allow yourself time to heal. Healing means dealing with the pain. No more running. Let the tears fall. Say what you need to say. Then stand your ground on your new path. Don’t allow others to steal your newfound joy and love.

I am now in my period of standing. God has amazed me this year. Everywhere I turn He is there showing me how well I am loved. Abundance and favor has reigned on me since the new year began. I eagerly anticipate what the rest of this year will produce. I have taken ownership of my life and my path. I know what I deserve and will not accept anything less than that in any area of my life.

Everything happens when it’s supposed to happen. I am living that in my life right now, as I watch things that were promised years ago manifest before my eyes with no delay. It is amazing, scary, and fulfilling at the same time. But there is no other place I would rather be.


I Once Was Lost…


I have been introduced to another soul that speaks to my heart. Sabrina Claudio’s soulful ballads are uplifting. Her words in “Confidently Lost” resonates deep within me. How can one be confidently lost? I am confidently lost because I am on a road I have never traveled. At times I find myself wandering when I encounter new parts of the journey.

But I am confident about my path and my purpose. I am purposely leaving some things, people, ways, habits, mindsets, and beliefs behind me. As I look back on this year I see ups and downs, lots of emotional pain, more than most could probably bare because I was forced to face some truth. Truth about myself and how lost I have been most of my life. Running around in circles never finding an end.

But I have finally stopped running! I am standing here facing an uncertain future as I walk out this new journey in 2018. It’s a little scary because I am vulnerable. I have finally opened my heart to love. It’s great and I don’t know what to expect. Which is good because I can be surprised at what it will bring into my path. Expectations can ruin things sometimes. So I am open to where the love leads us.

She says in her song “I am confidently lost, I don’t need you to find me, I don’t need you to define me.” For the first time in my adult life I no longer need a man to define me because I know who I am as a woman and his woman. I am a mature woman who feels 15 years younger than she is. I am invigorated by life, all of it, even the shit that hurts. The pain shapes us and forces us to stand tall. Fortitude!  Which is what it should do. But I won’t allow it to cut off my heart from giving and receiving love.

I desire love in all areas of my life. I don’t want to dwell around people who cannot love life, themselves, and others. The negativity is life draining. So as she says in her song-“Thinking about where I am from If I belong there“- speaks to my decision to separate myself from the negativity.

Although my path is unknown, I wouldn’t change it for anything. I am confident that I am not going back to anything I left in 2017. Goodbye heartache, negativity, jealousy, abuse, poverty, homelessness, fake friends, fake family, lies, deceit, selfishness, lack, loneliness, rejection, bondage, barriers, jobs with no purpose, people with no purpose, booty calls, and hiding.

I love you for supporting me over the last few years. This blog has been an evolution and transformation for me. There are bigger things coming from Fedora!!

Fedora Loves You! Peace

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The Phenomenal Booty Call

It’s official. He’s crazy. An old lover came back apologizing for treating me bad, which he did. I recognized an opportunity so I decided to allow him back into my life after a brief hiatus. Daddy told me to always make sure I got what I wanted in any relationship with a man. If you are reading this Daddy, you would be proud of your Goddess.

Do you know he came back with the same game. No difference at all. When I called him on it all he could do was laugh. Lovers to say how embarrassed I was for him is being nice. I am not ashamed to admit that I got hooked up with the wrong man. But there was definitely something in it for me.

He was charming, handsome and the sex was phenomenal. But I know all too well that you can not build anything based on sex. So this time I took my time to see where he was leading.

When he first came back he was very attentive. He did and said all the right things. But it only lasted as long as it took for him to get what he wanted. Me in his bed. Well I was not mad when I left him that night. But he expected that I was going to stay with him, cuddle like we used to. Wrong!!!

Did he really think I hadn’t learned from him before. I had an agenda as well. I wanted sex from him just as much. So I equally used him. I never had any intention on staying. He gave me just what I wanted.

So I pull back and really start pushing him for more time, all the while knowing he can’t fulfill any of it. I am waiting to see how long before the shit hits the fan and he’s had enough.

It did not take long before he was already wanting to get out. Only the fool did not realize that he was being played the whole time. I never had any intention of resuming a relationship with him. Because I already knew the truth.

He is not quite mature enough for a real relationship with me. I knew that when I left him six months ago. This time I watched him. He was uncomfortable, didn’t know his place. He could not figure out where I was because I had changed.

I didn’t bring any bad to him only peace. He told me that I was his peace. But he brought me strife, lies, and chaos. The sad thing here is that he really does love me. But he has no clue what to do about it.

It takes a strong, confident man to love and guide me. That he is not because he still has much growing to do.

I saw him in a picture with his new woman and realized for the first time he really is not all I thought he was. She didn’t really get anything. I made the right call following my spirit six months ago and letting him go.

So today I continue that path as I say goodbye to him for the last time. I will not open this door again not even for the phenomenal booty call. Although I will always love him, I am thankful for my freedom.


The Vow of Love


I am in a great space right now. Peace has found her way into my heart, she pours out to as many who will receive her. Yes. I am at peace within myself and content. Have you ever taken a vow to love?

Why would we need such a vow? We should love freely but sometimes we want more in return. This can sometimes cause ripples in your peace. But they’re necessary at times. The ripples keep us in reality, in our truth. I love naturally but it has cost me over the years. I learned to be more discerning rather than to cut my heart off.

Being mad all the time takes too much energy. I don’t know any angry people who are happy and peaceful. So I choose to love instead of being angry. Yes love is a choice.

This may sound simple but it’s not. I have a few people close to me who I could rightfully be angry with but I chose not to. That doesn’t mean that I allow them to use me or anything. I just choose to focus my energy on positive emotions and not negative outcomes.

I have taken a vow to love all those God allows me to reach. So that is what I will continue to do Lovers!

More to come….

Fedora Loves you. Peace

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New Horizons


It’s been a while I know. I have been on a tight schedule. Working hard writing my first book of fiction. It is hard work but I Love It! This is what I was born to do. Write and love. My two favorite things. I do them both very well too.

But Fedora has been working more than loving because I am focused on a goal. There is a new path before me and I want to explore it all. I want to be a published author. I want to love all the people God has blessed me to love unselfishly. But first I have to do this. I have to reach this goal.

I am working hard for my lovers to give more of my love through my words. So look for some new directions with my work. Experience my new passion. I have so much more to give!!!

Fedora Loves you. Peace