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Nobody But You by Algebra Blessett

Lovers,

I don’t know if any of you know what it feels like to belong to one man in mind, body, and spirit. Algebra captured the essence of it in her song. It resonated with my soul as I listened to her describe how I feel. You don’t want another person touching you when their touch is all you crave. You don’t allow others into your head because others will not understand why you talk and he listens. We live and love through music that’s why I share the tunes that go with the stories.

But today I dedicate this one to my Boaz because it’s how I feel baby!

Fedora loves you. Peace


Boy, listen
Everybody can’t be in my head
Everybody can’t sleep in my bed
Everybody can’t be up in my face
Everybody can’t be all in my space

Now I might fuss a lil’ bit, curse a lil’ bit
You know this, yeah
But if you trust a lil’ bit
You gonna get one hundred percent

I don’t want nobody but you
Don’t want nobody touching me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody kissing me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody loving me, baby
But you
But you, you, you

Everybody won’t understand my journey
Everybody won’t know how it heal what hurts me
Everybody can’t be written into my story
Just because they want me don’t mean they ready for me

Now I might throw a lil’ fit, talk a lil’ slick
I do this, yeah
I’m willing to go on and admit it that you a perfect fit
Baby, you the shit

I don’t want nobody but you
Don’t want nobody touching me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody kissing me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody loving me, baby
But you
But you, you, you

Never mind what you thought, you were in my heart
Never mind what you think, you were in my dreams
Never mind how it seems, you’re my everything
Never mind

I don’t want nobody but you
Don’t want nobody touching me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody kissing me, baby
But you
Don’t want nobody loving me, baby
But you
But you, you, you
I don’t want nobody but you

Written by Edward Monroe Hill, Mark Daniel Sanders • Copyright © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Universal Music Publishing Group

“Hard for Me” Leela James

Lovers,

My topic is making love hard. What I mean is that not every one can embrace love, thus making it hard for them to receive and give love. It doesn’t mean they don’t feel the love but usually there is some block from a past hurt that keeps them from fully loving and being loved.

This song reminds me of such a relationship. I like Leela’s approach because she’s not being pushy but lovingly stern about how much she will endure for love. Awesome song. Enjoy!!

Fedora loves you. Peace

Power and Purpose of Pain

Power and Purpose of Pain

My focus recently has been on love and pain. Most of the time I choose not to deal with the pain because pain can be negative. I don’t like to dwell there. But recently I have realized that my avoidance of this topic is exactly what has been keeping me stuck.

I learned the power and purpose of pain. Pain had taken over me and had produced something ugly and scary. I didn’t know who that person was. She was so scared and full of hurt. Then the hurt turned into anger and the anger just kept boiling and boiling but never came to an end. I was stuck in a never-ending cycle. But I had to stop it, so I knew what to do. I reached out and I got help.

God is always there and ready whenever we face things that are bigger than us. All we need to do is reach out and say, “I need help.” God will send help. Help may be found in a friend you can be real with, a counselor, a minister, your parent, etc. It depends on who God sends. But make sure you look for someone you can trust. You can’t handle this on your own. I found my person and I reconnected with God. I allowed Him to show me the path I should be on instead of that path of pain and anger.

When you stay in a place of hurt you allow yourself to become a weapon against another person. When you are being used in that way you can do damage. In some cases, irreversible damage. That struck home with me as I watched an episode of Being Mary Jane when her best friend committed suicide. I’m not saying that it was Mary Jane’s fault or anything. But after she found out about the incident between her best friend and her ex-boyfriend, she refused to talk to her friend. She shut her out. I thought that was a callous thing to do especially when she knew her friend was suicidal.

So sometimes pain will drive us to the point where we cannot help those who are weaker than us because we can’t see past our own hurt and anger enough to see what’s going on with the people around us. We are of no use to anyone when we are in that mode.

I have chosen to live differently and not purposely hurt others because of my own pain. If I find myself stuck and going into that path, I will ask for help because I don’t want to be used as a weapon to hurt people anymore. I know that I may never be perfect and I will probably hurt someone else again. But not in a way that I could have avoided. So, on this new path. I listen. I listen before I respond. I respond according to what I hear. I pay attention more. I deal with my crap and I live in freedom from hurting others because I can’t deal with my own pain.

Pain has another purpose as well. God uses pain to prune us of traits that are damaging to our spiritual and emotional growth. It is often the pain that leads us to a path of healing. We will seek the help we need because we don’t want to hurt anymore. Sometimes it may seem unfortunate that we must hurt so bad just to be set free. But think about the story of Jesus and how much pain he endured to set others free.

Paul had a thorn in his side that God refused to remove because he said his grace was sufficient. The painful thorn was his point of humility. It is what kept him from returning to his old ways. It’s what reminded him of his limitations. I have moments like that. I cannot return to certain situations that I allowed myself to be in before because there is a sensitive spot in my heart that reminds me of what is there should I return to that path.

Now in each scenario pain is used to produce something. But in the latter one it’s not being used as a weapon. But a point of contact, a reminder, it’s just a sore spot. When pain and anger couple together it becomes a powerful weapon that digs in and hurts. It’s not a sore spot, it’s a gaping gash. That is much different. I challenge you today to find your healthy place in the power and purpose of pain. Don’t be a weapon get healed today.

Love and Pain

Lovers,

Here is another playlist featuring music about my latest topic the collision of love and pain. Who wins?

Well in Fedora’s world love always prevails. So listen and enjoy the ride. Don’t forget to visit my YouTube channel and become a subscriber. I have much more coming for you soon.

Fedora loves you. Peace

Until the Pain is Gone by Daley ft. Jill Scott

Oh ooh oh
Oh ooh oh
Try to see this through my eyes
Cause you’re not the only one confused
In this world where love is prone to lose
Still I’m ready to give this thing a try
But how do I give to someone
Who wants what they can’t have
So if you need love, say it
I know that you feel it but I can’t
Keep holding on and on and on
I need to be the only one
Yeah, cause I know that you get lonely
So show me the things you’re scared to show me
And we can go on and on and on
‘Til the pain is gone
I don’t even know if I believe in love
But in it with you I’d like to be
I’ve just been so cynical baby
So can you convince me change my mind?
We can leave all those demon days behind
Cause, didn’t I mention
I have nothing but good intentions for you
So if you need love, say it
I know that you feel it but, I can’t
Keep holding on and on and on
I need to know that I’m the one
Yeah cause I know that you get lonely
So show me the things you’re scared to show me
We can go on and on and on
‘Til the pain is gone
(‘Til the pain is gone)
The pain that you knew before (The pain that you knew before)
It don’t matter any more
So if you need
So if you need love, say it
I know that you feel it but, I can’t
Keep holding on and on and on (Can’t keep holding one)
I need to know that I’m the one
Yeah cause I know that you get lonely
So show me the things you’re scared to show me
We can go on and on and on
Until the pain is gone, pain is gone
Songwriters: Daly Gareth Terence / Francis Murray / Hitesh Ceon / Kim Ofstad
Until the Pain Is Gone lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC