Category Archives: Transformation

Poems about growth.

Love Among Thorns

I love you
Despite your brokenness
Despite that you have
Torn my heart apart

I love you
Because you deserve
Love just like I do
Embrace my love

As you move forward
Do your best to break free
From the things that
Broke you in the first place

Strive to be a person
Who heals
Instead of hurts
Love yourself
Unconditionally
As God does

I love you
Among your thorns
I delight in your fruit
Born from our love

Starting New

Recently God  broke some things up in my life. It was good though because I grew from the experiences. I closed some doors that should’ve been closed years ago. It was refreshing and empowering.

Did I tell you that I am afraid of love? Yes, I have been for most of my adulthood. I have been hurt a lot and decided it was safer not to trust my heart to a man. I am saddened by the number of men in this world who do not value women. The ones who are hurt and unloved use women as sex toys, bed warmers, friends with benefits etc. Whatever term you use to describe how they steal our virtue with no intentions of giving anything back to us. They use us, our bodies, and our benefits leaving us empty and depleted.

When I realized this pattern in my life, I took steps to take myself out of this cycle. I cannot fix the men but I can allow God to help me fix myself. First, I stopped giving away my virtue. I became celibate. I began to recognize the men who only wanted to use me and stayed away from them. I also paid attention to find out why some of them did it. (That’s another post, I promise)

 

I wrote a poem a few years ago about how men have wanted me but never cherished me just because they love me. I was presented with this love I have never known before. Guess what I almost ran away. Yeah, I know. Chicken. I finally meet a man who loves me the woman not just my body. He calls me beautiful each time I am in his presence. As he kisses me, his eyes show how much he feels for me.

This is refreshing but do you know what the most empowering experience was for me  recently? Looking at myself and falling in love with myself again. I love this woman! I love her more than he does.

I want to encourage all people not just women to understand the importance of loving yourself. You have to be able to embrace the good and bad things about yourself. As you allow God to show you the less than perfect you. Open your heart and also allow him to show you how to heal in that area so that you can be the best person you can.

Remember that perfection is not attainable but if we chase perfection we will catch excellence. You may never be perfect but you will excel as you travel the path to purpose and you will purposely give the best parts of yourself to others.

Four Things a Man Needs in a Woman Before Marriage by Myles Munroe

Lovers,

I am on a new mission. God has given me a voice to help heal the hearts of those who have been hurt by love, failed relationships, marriages, and life. God is calling us back to the original design. Yes, I know many people don’t believe that the Bible is real and don’t believe in God or Jesus. That is not what this is about.

This is about how men and women were created to interact with each other. The roles we were born to fulfill and when it is done genuinely there is fulfillment in the marriage, in the individuals, in the family, in the community, and in the world. But when the family is broken all of these elements are touched negatively.

As a mature woman who did it incorrectly the first time I am thankful that God has allowed me the opportunity to get it right. I have spent the last ten years working on myself as a woman. Perfecting my singleness so that I may be a whole being, strong, healthy, and ready to fulfill my role as the helper for my husband. I will get it right this time.

I will be sharing a series of videos and posts on this subject to help you do the same. This is not just for women it’s for men too. There are so many men who are lost and don’t know how to find their vision. Part of finding their path is knowing what they need, understanding the mate who was created to help them.

Enjoy this message and prayerfully it will inspire you to begin your journey towards wholeness in your marriage or singleness in preparation for your marriage.

Fedora Loves You. Peace