No Fear in Love
Love is a natural emotion that we are born with. Babies love in the womb, their mother’s warmth and security. But soon after love blooms fear taunts it with it’s lies and misconceptions.
We learn to fear from the experiences of life. Psychology testing has been completed using fear as a stimulant to produce certain behaviors in animals. Guess what, it worked. Fear conditions our heart and brain cautioning it to never feel it again. So we unconsciously protect ourselves from the things that may cause us pain.
But love, much sweeter, much richer than fear has the strength to overpower fear. Love will make you take action against one who was trying to harm your little one. Love will have you make sacrifices for the betterment of your beloved. Love will sustain you when everyone else and all else fails you.
But there are many who fear love. Yes they have a fear of love, which is called Philophobia. It’s real! Usually brought on by some traumatic event involving love, people suffer from sever anxiety and depression when presented with love relationships (Maharjan). Not just romantic ones, but casual ones as well. Any relationship that touches your heart.
For those of you who started your new year lonely but are scared to take a chance on love. I encourage you to face your fears. It is much more peaceful to consider that while you may have been scared of love, at least you didn’t run away from it, when it was presented to you.
God teaches us that there is no fear in love and that “perfect” “well-formed” love casts out fear. The only perfect love that exists is God’s love. Submitting one’s heart to God and allowing him to love you will cast out fear. God’s love will give you the boldness to stand even when afraid and receive what is yours.
To Love, to Be Loved
God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us, so that we’re free of worry on Judgment Day—our standing in the world is identical with Christ’s. There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love.
1 John 4:18 (MSG)
Source: Maharjan, Rojika. Philophobia: Fear of Falling in Love – Causes, Symptoms and Treatment. https://www.healthtopia.net/disease/mental-health/phobia/philophobia-fear-of-love